I am a very religious person, so you may or may not be offended by this post. But I like to try to think rationally. Personally, I believe homosexuality is a choice that the individual has made. The choice doesn’t have to be conscious, and it can be heavily influenced by all sorts of things. Abuse, friends, the desire to be a minority. I also believe that this choice is a sin. BUT I do NOT believe that politicians have the right to tell them that they can’t be married.
Everyone know the part of the constitution where it says that every man is equal. That phrase has changed meanings several times. Voting isn’t the only issue that we (as a country) have had an issue with, but its the biggest, and the one that has brought the most change. First it started out as every white, male, land-owner; then it changed to white men; then men; then citizens; then the age changed from 21 to 18; and so on and so on. No one has ever been denied the right to be married. Even when african-americans were slaves they could be married. I believe that government officials with the power to marry a couple should be required to perform ALL marriages.
Another thing that everyone should be familiar with is the separation of church and state. Which means I also believe that churches and church members should not be required to change their beliefs or practices. If they don’t believe in gay marriage, then their clergy members should not be required to participate in the ceremony, and their buildings should not have to house the ceremony. They also should not have to change any teachings or beliefs about homosexuality. If the government required all churches to change beliefs or allow gay members it would be similar to the BSA being forced to allow girls to join. It’s a private organization, the government has very limited jurisdiction. If a clergy member wants to perform or participate in the ceremony and allow the couple to use his meeting-house, that’s his choice.
And obviously individuals who have gotten a license to wed of their own accord have control over which ceremonies they will and will not participate in. Nothing has changed there.
So now everyone should be happy! But they wont be. Religious zealots won’t be happy until homosexuals can’t be married at all, and homosexuals won’t be happy until they can be married anywhere. And that is what politics is all about. Giving people what they want and still having them be pissed off about it.